Learn to forget

One night, I went to see a friend being framed, dinner, friends, pick up the phone, I heard someone come out to tell a friend Who framed him, friends say you do not tell me, I do not want to know. I am a little surprised, a friend explained that, know what? Some things do not need to know, some things need to forget.
I applaud the open-minded friends. Shiba Jiu often unhappy life, make yourself happy, you have to relieve the pressure, decompression is a good way to learn to forget that life can afford needs could get, and sometimes put it down even more important. There is a small Buddhist story, said the old monk and the monk went to beg alms, novices respectful, nothing looked the master, went to the river, a woman to cross the river, the old monk crossed the river on her own woman, the woman thanks After leaving, the young monk I always thought, how can the master back the girl cross the river? But he not dare to ask, has been gone 20 years, he really wait any longer, and asked the master, we are monks, how can you back that the woman cross the river? Master said dismissively, I put her back across the river to put down, but you are 20 years of her not back down.
If Zen monk is full, think about it, but also of life. Person's life like a long journey, keep walking, will see a wide variety of scenery along the way, after many ups and downs, if you came to see past all the heart in mind, will give themselves a lot additional burden on the richer experience, the greater the pressure, might as well forget all the way along the way, always keep traveling light. The past is past, time can not turn the clock back, remember the lessons learned in addition to other, need not bear a grudge.
Willing to forget is a psychological balance, calm and sincere need to face life. Some people can forget the embarrassment and distress when frustrated, but then talked about good times, the pride, do not you know will stay the same success and failure in the past, always wallow in the past can not be relieved, I was young I would often say how how to take yesterday When the beautiful yellow eyes, so a solo stay forever in my heart, complacent, smug, stuck among themselves and false, will procrastinate, hesitate. The past is not a hero brave is justified. The pain of the past repeated chewing, always look the more undesirable the Kudachoushen. Indian poet Rabindranath Tagore said, "If you cry for the loss of the sun, you also miss the stars." Preoccupied with the trivial, rotten corn sesame Chen heart, I'm afraid overwhelmed the soul of the ship, carrying no less than the memory of the boat, will live a painful past to contain the future. Old saying goes: angry is someone else's mistake to punish oneself. Always obsessed with other people's bad, in fact, suffer is their own, let bygones be bygones who is happy relaxed people.
Forget the need to choose, some people some things in your life can not forget, nor should forget. Ali, the famous Arab writer, once and gilbert, Martha two friends traveling together. Three passing through a valley, Martha slip slide. Fortunately, gilbert desperately pull him, before he rescued. Martha then in the nearby stone head carved: "One day a certain period, gilbert save Martha's life." Three days to go, came to a river, gilbert with Martha as a small quarrel, gilbert angrily hit Martha a slap in the face. Martha went to the beach and wrote: "One day a certain period, gilbert played Masha a slap in the face." When they travel back, Masha Ali curious to ask why should gilbert things carved in to save him rock on, things will gilbert beat him to write in the sand? Martha replied: "I am always grateful gilbert, help me, I will remember. As he hit me, and I only with the disappearance of writing on the beach, forgetting their heads." This story tells us, remember to help others to you, forget other people's bad for you, this is a man's part.
Many people like it a vernacular poem: flowers in spring and autumn for a month, with cool summer and winter snow. If there is no big deal to hang my heart, is the human good season. Remember that some of the things some people forget certain things to certain people, be remembered, forget the forgotten, free and easy life, with no Guaai, you will feel life is so beautiful.